Anonymous asked: I'm 13 and am wondering if I'm asexual. Is it too young to decide? My other friends find sex interesting and are interested, but I find it disgusting and I'd really rather never do it. Am I too young to identify as asexual?
Hey, guess what? When I was thirteen, I was starting to think the same thing. Everyone else was into it, but I wasn’t, and I didn’t know why. And there isn’t really an age at which you can start to identify as something—I know most of my friends who identify as bisexual started doing so around that age, so it’s totally possible to know—but it is a touchy subject when you’re so young. Back then, I denied that I would ever find anyone attractive in that way—and everyone told me it was because I wasn’t in the thick of adolescence yet.
Identify however you feel comfortable, but be prepared to be told “you’re just a late bloomer,” or that you’re “too young”. People never really stop denying asexuality, but it’s usually worse when you’re younger (well, at least it was for me.)
Thirteen is a fair age to know your attraction to people or not, but I would keep an open mind, since I actually was a “late bloomer” as it were, and didn’t come out as pansexual until I switched high schools when I was 16, and didn’t realise I was demisexual until I was an adult and out in the world, being flirted with but not wanting to do anything with the people who were flirting, despite appreciating their attractiveness. Sexuality is a fluid thing, and your knowledge of yourself and the labels available to you will evolve and change as you grow. So like the others said, identify how you want, but be open to possible changes in perspective as you get older.